Just the regular dispute
Note that I made the image b/w to not, more than necessary, hurt your eyes with the disorder. You're welcome.
Arguments are inevitable when you're living in someone's pockets. A sailboat is a tiny world unto itself and this, like bad weather, must be expected but I have faith that the two of you will sail through this tempest and come out stronger.
So, good luck and Happy Easter!
JB
San Diego, CA
Thank you for thinking about our eyes haha well you are more chilled than me , I have a low tolerance for chaos hahaha and I wanna live on a boat ????
xo Meg<3
Taru,
I love when you bring up the real day to day issues of living in such a small space. In order to live in harmony, you both have to make tremendous sacrifices and Alex really needs to bend to your will. I can say that ( sorry Alex) because I was the untidy, ambitious, tinkerer, in my home. The difference was I had an out of sight place to store things so my wife would not get AS upset. Poor Alex doesn't have that luxury. He is trying his best to make you a safe, enjoyable home and you are trying to stay sane :).
My suggestion is for Alex to ask you to help him best organize his stuff at the end of the day and communicate that it won't always be this way. ( hopefully ).
You both seem like a great couple, don't let the things that you are trying to do for each other become the same things that drive a wedge between you
Good luck,
Sean
all you need to worry about is the kitchen dear
Taru
Don't worry too much about Alex's mess just now, and try to think how much nicer things are on the projects that he's completed with those tools. When your boat goes back into the water, I think you will find that Alex will soon put things away. If not, tell him that now the boat is in the water you would Luuurrrvvve to go for a little sail around the bay. If the tools are still not cleared away, then just wait until you are a mile or two out and try a couple of decent tacks and listen carefully for the crashing noises coming from below!
You won't have to say anything else because as soon as you're back Alex will disappear and clear everything up.
It's amazing how sailors forget lots of things when they spend extra time ashore!
Alex is obviously much smarter than I. When I was building my first boat I used to have a compatibility test for new girlfriends. I just handed them a piece of sandpaper and showed them a spot that needed varnishing. Took me a while to figure out why they never came back---.
nice with some photos of your different "rooms", i liked the one from the head aswell. almost like you let us visite the boat. but what do you do with all those books when out sailing?
i guess the ones on the second shelf wont fall down, but the once on the top shelf do look like they would easly slip down when some waves hit your way. do you take everything down everytime you set sails? or is this only how your shelfs look like when your in a marina maybe (ofcourse i understand that both of you are clever enought to stow the tools properly before heading out on the ocean, as anything else would harm the tools, the boat and maybe even yourself if your unlycky)
I'm with you on this one Taru but fortunately so is my hubby. After we finish our table project we're converting a quarter berth in the aft cabin to a tool & parts crib. We bought a bunch of amazing storage boxes from Harbor Freight and all the little hardware bits and pieces and small parts have gone in them. Next is to build a cabinet and rack to put the boxes in. Keep at it - you're right about the peace of mind it gives you to sit down at the end of the day and have some order around you.
Deb
S/V Kintala
www.theretirementproject.blogspot.com
I see the scene in black and white because... you see the scene in black and white. Maybe try a little more grey, and compromise on it being temporary? Hang in there, I see both sides for sure.
Alex....The women don't realize....we men need to leave our shit laying all around when we are working on a project. It's easier to leave and come back to when our ATTENTION is needed else where. Taru....small pain for a big gain. As long as he keeps the head and galley clear of his tools and shit. Food and morning meditation are very important in a clutter free enviroment.
Cheers
Scott
:o)
Oh gosh I'd go crazy living in a small space that wasn't organized, I feel your pain!
Its better than living in a house that constantly needs sweeping, dusting, mopping, and there's FUCKING DISHES IN THE SINK ALL THE FUCKING TIME!! I would love a nice small space to organize.. less space less hassle.